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Monday, August 25, 2014

The Unwritten Curriculum- Or ..."Why should I send my child to Preschool??"


“Learning starts in infancy, long before formal education begins, and continues throughout life.  Early learning begets later learning and early success breeds later success, just as early failure breeds later failure.” (Heckman, James, 2014) The late Dr. Fraser Mustard gave voice to “three enduring messages that have permeated the popular culture: The years before 5 last a lifetime; It takes a village to raise a child and Pay now or pay later”(2011, Early Years Study 3).  Drs. Mustard, Heckman and many others in recent years, have given voice to the importance of the early learning years and providing the very best learning opportunities we can to children in the, birth to age eight years, in order to fully capitalize on their optimal learning years. 
While the awareness of the importance of early learning is increasing, parents still have questions. These are two of the questions we get asked most often and of course we have answers!

“My child attends a daycare/day home, what is the difference?”  
The Ontario Childcare Resource & Research Unit (Feb.2002) states, ‘the quality of ECEC services is absolutely critical in determining whether they are educational and enhance child development or are merely ‘care’ that supports parental employment. Indeed, ‘the positive relation between child care quality and virtually every facet of children’s development that has been studied is one of the most consistent findings in developmental science.(Shonkoff & Phillips 2001:313)  There is a growing awareness in our society of the importance of early childhood education, vs. child care, both of which are important in our society.  There is a difference, between caring for a child’s basic needs for food, clothing, shelter, and safety; and providing educational learning opportunities which are planned purposefully, and implemented by staff who have educational background/experience in the early learning years, which support/extend the intellectual, linguistic, emotional, physical, and social learning of young children. The recommendations, and best possible scenario, would be for early child care and early childhood education, practitioners to collaborate and cooperate to strengthen all programs in a complimentary manner.


“What will he/she learn in preschool that I can’t teach them at home?”  
This is a valid question, as many parents, who choose to, are very capable of providing learning opportunities in relation to the learning outcomes which are the foundation of the early learning opportunities planned and implemented in Preschool.  At BELA, we have carefully and purposefully aligned our Program of Studies learning outcomes, with Alberta Education’s Kindergarten Program of Studies, in order to provide learning opportunities designed to support and enhance the learning success of children entering Kindergarten.
During our research period, prior to opening BELA, we gathered information from a Parent Focus group, to learn more about priorities of families in our community, in relation to their child’s early learning. Of 10 criteria, which included early literacy and numeracy skills, 100% of parents participating indicated that one of their highest priorities was pre-kindergarten skill development of self- help skills, and independent ‘student like’ behaviors.   It is this ‘unwritten curriculum’ which is introduced in preschool, supporting later success in Kindergarten, and later grades, which is of equal, if not more, importance than the written curriculum/program.  This ‘unwritten curriculum’ introduces routines and expectations, and supports the children as they develop the self-regulation (emotional control) skills referred to by Mrs. Parenas in her recent blog .  These social/emotional skills are difficult, if not impossible, to learn without the context of a group setting with ones peers.  As with the intellectual, linguistic, and physical skills, the children begin learning in Preschool, the earlier we begin to purposefully plan to enhance and extend the social & emotional skills of young children, the earlier we ‘beget later learning and later success’ as Dr. Heckman recommends.  The ‘unwritten curriculum’ provides the tools children need to support their learning success. 

The ‘Unwritten Curriculum’ learned in Preschool, or Tools to support learning success in Kindergarten include, but are not limited to:
  •        separates easily from parent(s)
  •         willingly listen, and follows directions from, an adult other than his/her parent
  •        is kind to everyone, lets other children play
  •        doesn’t  hit anyone
  •        listens to teachers when they are talking
  •        waits for turn to talk
  •        takes turns when playing with other children
  •        shares toys, space, and adult attention
  •        accepts responsibility and willingly helps clean up
  •        when the teacher tells another child to stop talking, does not start talking
  •        when someone greets child, or says good-bye, child responds
  •       responds to frustration, disappointment, anger in an appropriate manner
  •        is able to ask for help in an acceptable way
  •        lines-up and waits in line quietly
  •        treats toys and materials respectfully, doesn’t wreck, or throw, anything
  •        treats  adults with respect and answers if  asked a question
  •        if the teacher is talking to another child, doesn’t interrupt
  •        when going to the washroom, flushes toilet and washes hands
  •         hangs up back pack, jacket and other belongings in designated space
  •        puts on/take off own coat, shoes/boots, mitts, hat, and attempts to do them up


There is a difference between childcare and early childhood education and no matter how fantastic the home setting and skills of the parent there are many benefits to children attending preschool. The skills of the unwritten curriculum are a daily focus at BELA as the children are immersed into a school setting and culture and activities are planned and executed to maximize the students’ independence.  Our students are mastering these skills along with all of those that are a part of the written curriculum and they are having fun!! Learning & Loving it – as we strive to support our students & their families every day!

 Jody Rutherford
Director of Education & Programming


Wednesday, July 9, 2014

Pink Ribbon Project & The Gift of Time







Where does your money go when you sponsor our event?  What are you buying when you support the Pink Ribbon Project?  I wish that I could tell you that the money you donated were those last dollars needed to find a cure. But I can't, at least not yet.  I believe that I will be able to tell you that one day in the near future.  But for now, I can tell you exactly what you bought - you bought time.  Time for a mother to spend more time with her children.  Time for a grandma to become a great Grandma.  Time for a husband to travel with his wife.  How do I know this for sure?  Because my family has been given the gift of time.

Eleven years ago I sat in a doctor’s office with my mom and dad waiting to hear the results of the biopsy of a lump in my mom’s left breast.  I sat there staring at my dad's hands, how his fingers were curled tightly around the arms of the chair.  I looked at his wedding ring - a symbol of love that had been there for twenty-seven years.  While the doctor entered the room, I just kept staring at my dad's hands.  The doctor said, "we have your results, and it is breast cancer."  I watched as my dad's knuckles turned white against his dark skin.  Then I stopped listening.  I had heard all I needed to hear.  My mom had cancer.  I was twenty-two.

We were very fortunate that my Mom received the care and the treatment that she did.  Over five years, she had two mastectomies, radiation, chemotherapy, hormone therapy and took part in a clinical trial.  At that time she was said to be in complete remission.  What does that kind of time buy you?

My Mom got to be there as my youngest sister graduated from high school. She was by our sides as all three of us girls completed our college or university educations.  She looked on proudly at three weddings and watched our family grow with the addition of each son-in-law.  She has been there to hold each of her five grandchildren as soon as they entered this world!  Our family has been given all of these gifts of unimaginable value.



My Mom made it to her ten-year mark before she had a recurrence. One year ago we learned that the cancer was back, metastasized to her bones. So once again we are painstakingly aware of time and focused on anything we can do to buy more of it.

When you sponsor or donate to the Pink Ribbon Project, you are directly supporting the Canadian Breast Cancer Foundation as all the proceeds from our event go to them.  They are the leading supporter of breast cancer research in Canada.  Research leads to earlier detection, more treatment options and, most importantly, life saving and life extending treatment.

This year we were able to raise just over $19,000 for the Canadian Breast Cancer Foundation.  We are overwhelmed by the generosity of our sponsors and all those that attended the first annual Pink Ribbon Project!  Thank you for helping us to support the Foundation in the important work that they do, towards creating a future without breast cancer, all the while giving the gift of time to women and their families.  The support means more than we can ever say! 




- CP

Photo Blog!! Pink Ribbon Project

Had to share some photos from the first annual Pink Ribbon Project! Our sold out event raised over $19,000 for the Canadian Breast Cancer Foundation.  In addition the hard working committee and our sponsors, so many people played a part in the success of this event. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!! To view the full gallery of photos please visit : http://jessicasurgenorphotography.com

















Friday, May 16, 2014

Emotions Among Preschoolers


Kristen, 4 years old, was with her Mom in a department store to buy diapers for her younger brother. A doll caught her attention, as they were about to pay. Kristen pulled her mom back to the aisle where she saw it.  Her Mom said, “You’ve got lots of them at home, let’s go.”  But Kristen refused to go and insisted on buying it. Her mom on the other hand was firm about not buying the doll.  Kristen, feeling frustrated yelled, “I don’t want to go!” then turned around and started to run away from her Mom.

Was her emotion valid? Was her reaction acceptable?
Frustration is an emotional reaction when a goal is blocked and is commonly related to anger.  Like adults, young children express emotions everyday and we witness a variety of these in a preschool setting. Joy, fear, anger, surprise, sadness and disgust are universal emotions, expressed similarly in all cultures and are already present at birth or in the early months (The Development of Children, 2009).  A person’s characteristic pattern of emotional reactions is a basic element of personality (A Child’s World, 2008). Children of Kristen’s age may use hitting, biting, or pushing as a way to solve conflicts. They simply don’t understand the difference between appropriate and inappropriate interactions yet.  Although 3-year-olds begin to understand the emotions they are feeling, they have very little control over them. If they feel something, they will likely act on it. This may mean snatching away a toy from another child if they want to play with it. They get upset when told to wait  for something they want to do right away. If they find something funny, they will laugh wildly. If they get excited, they will jump and yell uncontrollably. When children are extremely happy, they giggle almost endlessly and wrestle each other. If they feel sad or angry they will burst into tears.



As adults, we know how it feels to be frustrated or upset and we should know how to appropriately react or express such feelings. On the other hand, these feelings present special challenges to children’s self-regulation abilities. Between 2 to 6 years of age, children develop a number of strategies to help them keep their emotions under control (Grolnik, McMenamy  Kurowski, 1999, Saarni, 2007, Gross & Thompson, 2007). Emotional self-regulation helps children guide their behavior (Laible & Thompson, 1998) and contributes to their ability to get along with others (Denham,et al, 2005).
Emotional understanding becomes more complex with age. Preschoolers can talk about their feelings and often discern the feelings of others (Saarni, Mumme, & Campos, 1998). By about age 3, having acquired self-awareness plus a good deal of knowledge about their society’s accepted standards, rules and goals, children become better able to evaluate their own thoughts, plans and desires, and behaviour, against what is considered socially appropriate. This is when they develop self-conscious emotions such as embarrassment, empathy and envy, and the self-evaluative emotions of pride, guilt and shame.

What Can Adults Do to Help Preschoolers in Understanding, Regulating and Controlling their Emotions?
Parents, teachers, and other adults can help children understand and control their emotions (Havighurst, Harley, & Prior, 2004; Thompson, 2006; Thompson & Lagattuta, 2005). They can talk with children to help them cope with distress, sadness, anger, or guilt (highered.Mcgraw-hill.com). Shame, guilt and pride depend on internalization of parental standards of behaviour (A Child’s World, 2008).
Modelling appropriate behaviour is still the most effective way of showing kids how to respond appropriately. As noted by Berk and Shanker (2006), by watching adults handle their own feelings, preschoolers pick up strategies for regulating emotions. Warm, patient parents, who use verbal guidance to help children understand and control their feelings, including suggesting and explaining strategies, strengthen the child’s capacity to handle stress (Gottman, Katz & Hooven, 1997). In contrast, when parents rarely express positive emotion, dismiss their child’s feelings as unimportant, and have difficulty controlling their own anger and hostility, children have continuing problems managing their emotions,  that may seriously interfere with psychological adjustment (Calkins & Johnson, 1998; Eisenberg, et. Al, 2001; Gillion et al, 2002; Katz & Windecker-Nelson, 2004).



Accordingly, to be competent members of society, children must learn how to control their emotions in addition to controlling their thoughts and actions (The Development of Children, 2009).  In fact according to Dennis (2006), the ability to understand and regulate, or control one’s feelings is one of the key advances of early childhood.  The emerging ability to control emotions help the preschool-age child deal with the disappointments, frustrations, and injured feelings that are so common at this stage.

Clearly this is a complex topic that requires parents, caregivers and those who interact with a child on a regular basis to work together. Modelling behaviours, teaching strategies to help cope, as well as working on language with children to help them express their emotions are key to supporting the child and family and are of utmost importance at BELA

Wednesday, April 30, 2014

Pink Ribbon Project...Tickets on Sale Now!!


Please join us for A Night Out ....in support of the Canadian Breast Cancer Foundation!

Saturday, June 21, 2014

Brooks Campus- Medicine Hat College

Drinks. Dinner. Live Music & DJ

6:30pm Cocktails &  Music by The Wine Soaked Preachers

8:00 Dinner. Followed by DJ & Raffles

The Pink Ribbon Project is a gala event .....  from the décor to the service, from the prizes to the entertainment, this will be a social gathering that your friends, colleagues and clients will want to be a part of!  A good time, for a good cause!

TICKETS ON SALE NOW!
$65.00 per person
Tables of 8 or 4 available
Tickets are limited - Get yours today by calling 501-0019.


* Drive Home Service courtesy of the Brooks Minor Ball Association!
* Cocktail Attire Preferred


Monday, April 14, 2014

Pink Ribbon Project- the Why & the How!


My committee and I have been working hard for the past 6 months on our event, the Pink Ribbon Project that will be held later this spring and will benefit the Canadian Breast Cancer Foundation. I wanted to take a few minutes to share with you some of the background behind our project. Most importantly the why & the how but I will throw in the; who, what, when & where for good measure!


 As a side note to help you out as you read this post, some of you may not be aware that Jody – who is the founder of BELA and my business partner, is also my Mom ! So as you read it you will understand why I am so passionate about this event and why it is of the utmost importance to me!

The Why….

Jody Rutherford, the founder of BELA and our Director of Education & Programming is facing her second battle with Breast Cancer. Jody ‘s passion for Early Childhood Education is the driving force behind BELA and has allowed our team to provide support and vital services to the children of Brooks and Area.  Jody and her diagnosis were the first “why” behind this event!   And we have added more  along the way…other Moms, sisters & friends that have been impacted by breast cancer. Its time for us to show our support to Jody, to other women we know & love and to the Breast Cancer Foundation by generating monies to go towards research and prevention of this disease. Through this event, we can show Jody and other women in our community  that we are behind them, that we will be there to support them, by supporting the Foundation in the important work that they do, towards creating a future without breast cancer.

For me, my mom’s diagnosis arrived much like how the main at a fine dining restaurant arrives on your plate. The different components of the dish intricately layered upon each other in an unexpected and complex fashion. In this case, fear upon denial, upon anger, upon science & statistics.  Watching each member of my family & most importantly my Mom experience this dish in their own way has been both heartbreaking and humbling. For me, this is not a  balanced dish, it's much too bitter and is not something I want to experience again.  For me, it can only be tempered by the beauty of a delicate little side dish called hope!



The How……

I needed to use that little bit of hope to push myself forward and to push the fear down. To find a way to try to help my Mom and to help others. My sisters and I put together a committee to work on the event and didn’t need to look far to find people who like us, are driven to try to make a difference.  I won’t speak for the committee, as I know you will find them at the event and will allow them to share their motivation & experience for themselves! But I will say that their vision, hard work and dedication are unmatched! I appreciate them more than I can say.  

Once we had our committee in place we needed to get the ball rolling on just how to make this vision a reality! The groundwork was of course already in place, as BELA was incorporated as both a non-profit organization and a registered charity in 2011 under the umbrella of the Brooks Community Enrichment Foundation. While our organization is dedicated to enriching the lives of children and families in Brooks and area by providing innovative preschool programming, we also have a mandate that turns our focus to supporting other charities that are family centered and / or wellness related. We strive to support causes that are important to our students, their families and to the members of our board. So we of course turned our focus to creating an event that would both, raise funds for the Canadian Breast Cancer Foundation as well as show our love & support to my Mom and other women in our community. 

First and foremost was to gain the approval of the Canadian Breast Cancer Foundation. They have been a wonderful resource and support for us along the way! Because BELA is a charity, we are able to act as a third party fundraiser for the foundation, with the proceeds of our event going to them. We hope to make them proud!

We would not be able to host this event without the support of our sponsors! Some of the sponsors that have come on board are dear friends of the committee and we could not be more grateful.  Sponsor dollars allow us to cover the expenses associated with the hosting the event and then we are able to put the maximum amount of revenue towards our final donation.

So now you know the why & the how! I promised to throw in the rest and so here is what I can tell you so far!

The Who, the What, the When & Where….


The Pink Ribbon Project…..A Night Out in support of the Canadian Breast Cancer Foundation.

Please join us if you want to have an amazing night out with your friends, family or coworkers! Make a difference while experiencing this one of a kind event!

Drinks. Dinner. Music. Entertainment. Raffle Prizes & More.

Saturday, June 21 at the Brooks Campus- Medicine Hat College

Tickets go in sale in just a few short weeks and we will share more exciting details with the ticket information on May 1. Watch for it here on the blog as well as on our website, Facebook & Twitter!

- CP